” WHEN THE OTHERS MAKES A THING WHICH HURTS YOU OR IRRITATES YOU, IT’S BECAUSE THAT THING HAS JUST SETTLED ON ONE OF YOUR WOUNDS “

As a cotton soaked with alcohol on a opened wound, if the wound was closed, it wouldn’t cause pain.
Other one in front of you, the one who irritates you excessively, is your best asset for your evolution!
Difficult to believe, to admit and to accept, especially.
nevertheless this is true.

An example: my husband is a grouch, a real one! and he always believe he is the only one who “doesn’t have chance in the world” (fortunately he does read my posts!) when he grumbles, the first 5 minutes I listen to, then I get irritated, it causes in me a feeling of discomfort which goes to the anger if I am not going to isolate myself.

For long, I believed he was the problem, but finally i realize the problem is me! By looking at him and listening him grumbling, it puts me in front of fact that I do not support the part inside me which is not completed, the one who still grumbles, the one who still manages to be angry, or envious.
In fact I see in him, what i don’t want to see in myself.
This part of me which behaves as a child, my “child-me”, sometimes I do not love this part. it’s quite hard to accept “you don’t like a part of yourself”

To become aware of it, it’s already act differently, because a revealed problem cannot continue. Then I give love to this child, and when I can’t do it, I work on the fact i can’t give love to this part of me. But, I keep in mind that the problem does not come from the other one, it comes from my non-acceptance.
Everything comes just in time for those who think with the heart.