Is your  love relation equilibrate ?


Love: Development of self first priority
Toxic love: Obsession with relationship 

Love: desire for others to grow
Toxic love: may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness

Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships
Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests

love: Encouragement of each other’s expanding; secure in own worth.
Toxic love: Preoccupation with other’s behavior; fear of other changing

Love: Appropriate Trust
Toxic love: Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects “supply.”

Love: Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together
Toxic love: Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation

Love: Embracing of each other’s individuality
Toxic love: Trying to change other to own image

Love: Relationship deals with all aspects of reality
Toxic love: Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant

Love: Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other’s mood
Toxic love: Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other

Love: Loving detachment
Toxic love: Fusion

Love: Sex is free choice growing out of caring & friendship
Toxic love: Pressure around sex due to fear, insecurity & need for immediate gratification

Love: Ability to enjoy solitude by being alone
Toxic love: Unable to endure separation; clinging

Love: Cycle of comfort and contentment
Toxic love: Cycle of pain and despair

Love: Conversations based upon intent to Understand, Help, or convey affection
Toxic love: Conversations based upon intent to blame, defend, or manipulate

Source: “Healthy vs. Unhealthy Love” from