Here is Isabelle Padovani’s text which I find very well written about NVC, I thus share it:
Merry chritsmas guy, i love you all !
” TWO THINGS WHICH I LEARNT IN 12 YEARS OF PRACTICE OF THE NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION:
1) KEEP SILENT, at times when I spoke.
2) SPEAK, at times where I kept silent.
For more details:
1) I LEARNT TO KEEP SILENT every time I realize that I am going to open the mouth to express judgments or interpretations, while in fact I need empathy… I learnt how to speak when I need empathy by expressing something else than my need for empathy has tragic consequences… Thus I keep silent and I take time to make return towards me to begin to listen my thoughts and to translate them into feelings and needs, or to ask to a friend to offer myself a moment of empathic listening.
2) I LEARNT TO SPEAK, to dare to express concrete, realistic and negotiable demands, in all these small moments of the everyday life where there is something which does not contribute to feed some of my fundamental needs and where, before my meeting with the CNV, I gave the priority to the part of me which told me ” Keep silent, it doesn’t matter, you are not going to bother him with that “or” Keep silent, you cannot ask that… ”
In 12 years of practice, I measure how every day is as the first day of practice, how every silence and every word ask me again and again to make an conscious choice: the one to live what I long to live, rather than what we taught me to live… “